In one of my previous pieces, I was trying to convey the idea of attempting new things to fully comprehend the behind the scenes and grasp how difficult something may be.
This inspired me to provide the opportunity for anyone willing to try something new, in this case… blog writing! That way, this person is going to have the chance to portray the ideas they would like to share with the world and to experience the art of blog writing.
Derin decided to take up the challenge and provide us with a piece of his own. I personally believe in self-introductions rather than being introduced, so anything after this paragraph is all Derin!
Introduction
Hey everyone, my name is Derin Shinto, an undergraduate student at the University of Toronto. My curiosity to understand the working of the human mind has driven my passion to specialize in clinical psychology in the near future. Alongside my studies, I take a great interest in reading, chess, badminton, and lastly a passion for exploring and learning from new experiences. The inspiration for the blog below comes from a few individuals whom I had the pleasure of calling friends for the past couple of months.
Friendship
History dictates numerous times that humans have come parallelly close to extinction, yet fast forward to the present day and we persist to fight and survive against the challenges of mother nature. Although adaptability, intelligence, and evolution all have been attributed to aiding our survival, we focus on a characteristic that perhaps trumps the former traits mentioned: Friendship. Similar to how lions hunt in packs, and buffalo travel in herds, being close to ones we trust and value isn’t a concept that is solely limited to a specific species but rather universal.
Why Have Friends?
Firstly, they act as compassionate individuals supporting us as we voyage through the challenges and trials of life. During times of struggle, they listen, during times of distress they comfort, and finally, during times of despondency, they motivate. Secondly, friends guide your future. As brilliant as they are, each one is unique, bringing their own level of wisdom, experiences, and opinions. Cumulatively they challenge our preconceived notions translating into new experiences leading to a broadening understanding of our world and ultimately ourselves. Choose the right ones and you’re destined for life; choose the wrong ones and you’re doomed for life. Lastly, in a world where conformity is encouraged, our friend groups become a safe haven where we can act authentically. Despite, their shortcomings, our flaws, and the differences between us, the friendship formed signifies us accepting each other just the way we are.
How do you make Friends?
Arguably the most effective method involves joining a group that caters to your interests. Joining a group encourages you to express your thoughts and ideas (potentially on a subject of expertise) while simultaneously being surrounded by like-minded individuals. Additionally, it’s vital to know the rights and wrongs of friendships, which can vary between individuals. For instance, while commenting on the abysmal navigational skills or penchant for procrastination of a friend might be an acceptable level of humor for some, it may be offensive for others. Thus, finding the suitable level is an intricate balance between time and experience
In conclusion, the importance of friendships transcends mere companionship and becomes a vital source of solace, support, motivation, and a safe haven where we can comfortably reveal our true selves without fear of judgment. They mold our character and chisel away our imperfections in their own minds to accept us just the way we are.
Just read it and yeah it’s pretty usefull for the ones who Ain’t havin much friends.